When making plans for the holidays, I was down in the dumps. I was still mending after my break up and knew I needed to get out of cold NYC and have something to look forward to. Last year, I celebrated my first Christmas at my ex cub’s home in the South. It was my […]
Can you isolate the exact moment on a date or in a relationship when you know it’s not going to work out, that the guy is going to go bye-bye? It sounds funny, but I’m going to call it “the moment of imminent ‘poof’” (no not like that). It used to take me at least […]
I used to loathe this phrase. It sounds like a cop out. When you don’t feel like giving advice to a friend or are at a loss for words, “It is what it is” is the lazy default. Urban Dictionary agrees:-A phrase that seems to state the obvious but actually implies helplessness.-Used often in the […]
My break up with my cub was due to several differences between us, age and life stage being the biggest. So I’ve since sworn to try to date guys over 35. On my online dating profile, under “age range looking for,” I deliberately wrote “35-51.” This doesn’t mean that if I meet a guy younger […]
The abundance of Thanksgiving posts out there pre-Thursday turned off my writing switch. All the pertinent topics had been covered, ranging from the obvious gratitude articles to the difficult travel day posts. I posted a link to one I particularly liked called, “Can you be thankful for what you don’t have?” to my Facebook page […]
I’ve had this conversation a lot lately, so I thought I’d commit it to paper (er, the web). What is wrong with the dating scene in New York? Is it me, or is true that (I quote friends),“Men in NY are retarded, or at best, weird?” I know men complain about the same thing in […]
The word “bashert” is a word I’ve heard for as long as I can remember. It’s Yiddish for “pre-destined” (i.e. the person we are intended to marry). My first thought, based on where I am today, is to say that having this idea, this goal or fantasy implanted in a person at such a young […]
I’m sure there have been a gazillion blog posts and articles written about breaking up in today’s world of social media. The medium which allows us instant contact with friends, potential partners, and the ones we are in relationships with, can become our worst enemy when we break up. My cub and I broke […]
When I was in my early teens, I had a recurring dream of being chased by Nazis and dogs in the snow. The first few times I assumed that the dream was due to extensive exposure to the Holocaust in my Jewish history classes, as well as at home. But eventually I wondered if I […]
Jews aren’t supposed to “do Halloween.” When I was in Hebrew School, the principal sent out a memo telling parents that it’s a pagan holiday and therefore not proper for “the children of the Hebrew Academy” to dress up like goblins and witches. What a bummer! I still managed to collect tons of snicker bars […]