Being single: Is it just a state of mind?

When making plans for the holidays, I was down in the dumps. I was still mending after my break up and knew I needed to get out of cold NYC and have something to look forward to. Last year, I celebrated my first Christmas at my ex cub’s home in the South. It was my […]

Can you predict when a guy is gonna bail?

Can you isolate the exact moment on a date or in a relationship when you know it’s not going to work out, that the guy is going to go bye-bye?  It sounds funny, but I’m going to call it “the moment of imminent ‘poof’” (no not like that). It used to take me at least […]

It is what it is.

I used to loathe this phrase. It sounds like a cop out. When you don’t feel like giving advice to a friend or are at a loss for words, “It is what it is” is the lazy default.  Urban Dictionary agrees:-A phrase that seems to state the obvious but actually implies helplessness.-Used often in the […]

If a Cougar stops dating young cubs, is she still a Cougar?

My break up with my cub was due to several differences between us, age and life stage being the biggest. So I’ve since sworn to try to date guys over 35. On my online dating profile, under “age range looking for,” I deliberately wrote “35-51.” This doesn’t mean that if I meet a guy younger […]