Get Busy Living.

I haven’t blogged in a while. Perhaps it is because I’m writing a new book which now serves as my catchall, my canvas, for newborn thoughts, instead of this blog. I’m sorry. Although I don’t know who I’m apologizing to. My mom hasn’t noticed. Some friends have, but I talk to them weekly and fill […]

Do we see what we want to see?

I’m guessing that only my mother noticed that I skipped last week’s post, but I have a good reason. I’m in the middle of my second book, thanks to NanoWrimo, November book writing month, which forces you to write 50,000 words in 30 days (that’s about 170 pages double-spaced, fyi). As of an hour ago, […]

Return of the Cougar

When I started this blog, some readers took issue with the term “Cougar.” “You’re too young to be a Cougar,” and “Cougars are trampy women in their fifties who hunt young guys and just use them for sex,” are some comments I received early on. My rebuttal was: 1- Cougarism has less to do with […]

Balance. What does that even mean?

Balance. I’ve been struggling with it for months. How do I find time for my job, my friends, my family, furnishing my new apartment, dating, and last but not least, my writing? (and to those of you reading this who have kids too, I’d love to know how you do it!). Yes I know I […]

When you think you know what you need, do the opposite.

In the past few years since I started this blog, I’ve written a few posts that diss online dating. “I have three friends who are now married who met on JDate!” people had said to me.  “It’s not for me,” I stated emphatically enough to bring the conversation to a close. I have several friends […]

Can a lecture teach us about love?

I went to a Kabbalah lecture this week. I don’t attend lectures. I don’t like to be lectured to. And I have a hard time sitting still. But I’ve always been intrigued by it, and rather than guessing, or wondering what exactly Madonna was up to, I figured I’d educate myself. I also have an […]

What happens when a single divorcee goes to a...Bar Mitzvah?

This was a week where the running theme was “milestones” – weddings and Bar Mitzvahs. I didn’t go to a wedding, but I could have gone to my own. I was sitting outside my office the other day, when a man walked by and said, “Can I ask you a question?”  I nodded. “Will you […]

Atonment. Change. And of course, Kugel.

It must be timely that I’ve moved to a new apartment on the Jewish New Year, which is a time of self reflection that leads to resolutions for change. I usually visit my family in NJ for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, but this Yom Kippur I wanted to stay in my new apartment. That […]

Can looking back help us move forward?

Some people believe that talking about the past sounds melancholic, burdened, and downright sad.  But how can we fully appreciate where we’ve come, without acknowledging where we have been? I’ve moved numerous times since my husband and I separated. Whenever someone asks me how many times, I have to count again – just like when […]

Choose Your Own Adventure.

When I got divorced and left Los Angeles almost six years ago, going back for a visit has always been surreal. My job producing commercials took me there every three months or so, forcing me to confront a life I once led, from a different perspective. It also forced a spotlight onto my emotional healing […]