Some people believe that talking about the past sounds melancholic, burdened, and downright sad. But how can we fully appreciate where we’ve come, without acknowledging where we have been? I’ve moved numerous times since my husband and I separated. Whenever someone asks me how many times, I have to count again – just like when […]
When I got divorced and left Los Angeles almost six years ago, going back for a visit has always been surreal. My job producing commercials took me there every three months or so, forcing me to confront a life I once led, from a different perspective. It also forced a spotlight onto my emotional healing […]
On most Sunday mornings, I look back on the week I’ve had and think about what to post – whether there are emerging themes or repeat occurrences that are worth discussion. This past week was packed with what seemed to be a lot of disconnected events, all noteworthy in my mind, but not necessarily related. […]
The following question was asked of me four separate times this week, from four different men. “How in the world are you still single?” Compliment? Sure. It was meant to flatter me. Even though my inability to come up with a clear answer made me feel the opposite of flattered. I considered the following […]
There’s nothing better than seeing a film about love to snap you out of a “who needs love” frame of mind, especially when it is an unscripted documentary. After an insulated week spent in the illusion that is the bubble of Cannes, I was anticipating the reality of spending the long holiday weekend in NYC, […]
I scanned through my old posts tonight, hoping they’d spark a new idea, and I noticed that I only wrote two last June, instead of four or five. I wonder if there is a connection as to why I’m feeling stumped on this particular week. As a blogger, we choose to put ourselves out there. […]
About every eight months or so, I can feel it coming on, the way my knees ache before it rains. It arrives with either the advent of spring (although in NY right now that seems premature), or around thanksgiving, where I get a message from an ex I haven’t heard from in awhile. And the […]
Since I unloaded a significant amount of raw emotion in my last post about my break up, I’m keeping this one simple. For one, I don’t have a whole lot to say (believe it). Not much has happened in the last week, whereas usually, in the weeks following a break up, I’m brimming with random […]
My parents know I’ve been seeing someone (I’ll call him “John”). Immediately after my divorce, they were the drivers of the “Cougel needs to find another husband” bandwagon, but that was almost four years ago, and since then I’ve had my share of bungled dates, breakups, and experiences that seemed to have stemmed their concern. […]
This is a common question. Many books have been written about it. But I wonder if the question is open ended and its answer varies for everyone. Some therapists claim that a woman who marries a man like her father probably had a difficult relationship with him (or he was absent) and she spends her […]