When I started this blog, some readers took issue with the term “Cougar.” “You’re too young to be a Cougar,” and “Cougars are trampy women in their fifties who hunt young guys and just use them for sex,” are some comments I received early on. My rebuttal was: 1- Cougarism has less to do with […]
Balance. I’ve been struggling with it for months. How do I find time for my job, my friends, my family, furnishing my new apartment, dating, and last but not least, my writing? (and to those of you reading this who have kids too, I’d love to know how you do it!). Yes I know I […]
In the past few years since I started this blog, I’ve written a few posts that diss online dating. “I have three friends who are now married who met on JDate!” people had said to me. “It’s not for me,” I stated emphatically enough to bring the conversation to a close. I have several friends […]
I went to a Kabbalah lecture this week. I don’t attend lectures. I don’t like to be lectured to. And I have a hard time sitting still. But I’ve always been intrigued by it, and rather than guessing, or wondering what exactly Madonna was up to, I figured I’d educate myself. I also have an […]
This was a week where the running theme was “milestones” – weddings and Bar Mitzvahs. I didn’t go to a wedding, but I could have gone to my own. I was sitting outside my office the other day, when a man walked by and said, “Can I ask you a question?” I nodded. “Will you […]
It must be timely that I’ve moved to a new apartment on the Jewish New Year, which is a time of self reflection that leads to resolutions for change. I usually visit my family in NJ for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, but this Yom Kippur I wanted to stay in my new apartment. That […]
Some people believe that talking about the past sounds melancholic, burdened, and downright sad. But how can we fully appreciate where we’ve come, without acknowledging where we have been? I’ve moved numerous times since my husband and I separated. Whenever someone asks me how many times, I have to count again – just like when […]
When I got divorced and left Los Angeles almost six years ago, going back for a visit has always been surreal. My job producing commercials took me there every three months or so, forcing me to confront a life I once led, from a different perspective. It also forced a spotlight onto my emotional healing […]
How many people do you know suffer through a break up (amicable or not), only to get back together with their exes? How many people do you know who have done that more than once? (Raises hand). Why? 1. Habit: A big fat vacuum exists after a break up. Something (someone) is missing, and you […]
I was hesitant to post a blog tonight because any topic related to dating, relationships, and the general woes of being single seemed grossly trivial compared to the somber commeration of 9/11’s ten-year anniversary. The minutiae that make up our day to day lives – the little joys as well as the irritating dramas and […]